Category Archives: Relationships

Eleanor Marjorie Rooks (Blanchard) 1934–2017: from her daughter

My mother passed away on Sunday, April 9, 2017, after years of struggling with COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease). I’ve included the paragraph below as something of an introduction to my mother. My father and brothers chose not to include … Continue reading

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Summer Nostalgia I: Lost Summers

Two or three weeks ago Vancouver was still in the midst of a “non-summer.” There had been very few warm and sunny days. Sasamat Lake was still cold. I felt uneasy, almost as though I was in mourning for everything … Continue reading

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Beauty Behind the Madness: high in the fog

February 2016 I was pumped from the gym. I’d done my whole workout while listening to a new album I’d just downloaded from iTunes: The Weeknd’s Beauty Behind the Madness. The Weeknd is Abel Makkonen Tesfaye, a Canadian-born singer-songwriter of … Continue reading

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Sexual jealousy and what I learned about sex from a 1946 children’s book

I’m not telling you what book it is yet. Your choice: read on or skim. An old cliché calls jealousy “the green-eyed monster” and never is that monster more emerald-eyed and sharp-fanged than when it’s sexual jealousy. A friend of … Continue reading

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In praise of older men (and roses!)

Two days ago I was alone in the running store. It was early afternoon; there had been few customers, and the sunlight of a mild September day was flooding in, adding to the store’s peaceful, sleepy atmosphere. All of a … Continue reading

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Remembering George Gluppe: Thoughts on lifelong friendship

At this time of year I always think about my lifelong friend and coach, George Gluppe, who passed away on April 21, 2012. This year I am feeling the loss of him from my life more keenly than ever before: … Continue reading

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Why I blog: voices from the past

Why I blog Last week I bumped into a fellow Phoenix Running Club member in the Port Moody rec centre gym. He greeted me enthusiastically with a loud “Who knew?” Explaining, he added, “…that books have always been your greatest … Continue reading

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Eleanor Wachtel explores identity, relationships, and writing with Jackie Kay

Yesterday evening I had a near-mystical experience of closeness—the kind of closeness you can have when you are alone, yet deeply connected in some way to others. I was listening to Eleanor Wachtel’s “Writers & Company” on CBC’s radio one. … Continue reading

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Chameleon Eyes

Your chameleon eyes draw me in I’m drowning I want to drown I want to be immersed in you A glance is an eternity But your eyelids drop instantly Chameleon eyes hiding from me. . My own eyelids too quickly … Continue reading

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Infidelity: lies, denial, and enduring love

I recently read Nora Ephron’s hilarious novel Heartburn (1983), a thinly-disguised version of her marriage and divorce from journalist Carl Bernstein. Only Ephron could wring so much humour out of discovering her husband’s infidelity—at the time she was seven months pregnant … Continue reading

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